|Anita's Blog (Page 4)
It's been a while since my last entry, so
this could take a while. As in most of my entries, it's
going to be a complaining session that I really do need. And
the complaining will NOT be about my dog Lucky, but rather,
my husband of almost 30 years. As for Lucky, she is doing
great. She's excepted me as the boss and the hubby comes in
second at best in the chain of command. In other words, I'm
the one she listens to above all others in the family. I'm
what the professional dog trainers consider the leader of
the pack. The boss dog!
I've talked to other people about what
I'm doing with Lucky, and they all say the same thing. I'm
doing just as I should with Lucky, and that's claim command
of the situation and give Lucky the leadership she needs in
order to learn and grow with that learning. Yet, my hubby
says that he's doing things better than myself with the dog.
And Lucky listens to him list and list as time goes bye.
It's a case of pour Harold....he doesn't have a clue that
things are not improving for him and Lucky. And he created
the problems between himself and Lucky without any help at
all from me or anyone else.
With all that said, here comes my
complaining about the hubby. And it's going to make him look
really bad to say the least. But it's the truth and that
must count for something even if this isn't a close friend
or family member I'm telling this too.
You see, we were told by professional JRT
raisers when she was still tiny that there are certain
things that a JRT must be taught. And that there is a right
and wrong way to work with Lucky. I listened carefully to
these people and took their advice. Harold didn't and still
doesn't to this day. I can't seem to get through to my hubby
that we have a special type of dog on our hands and that
training from both of us is equally important. Yet, he wants
me to do most (ALL) of the training. So now we have a dog (a
JRT) that refuses to listen to him. She wants the Mommy and
get me cause my hubby refuses to deal with the training of
her. That is considered my job above and beyond everything
where Lucky is involved.
In all reality, this makes me the leader
of the pack. Whether or not my husband agrees with the
statement or not. My dog sees me as the leader because I'm
the one she see taking action and doing the leading. So by
nature, she's going to follow me and listen to me. Harold
still thinks I've not got a clue about my dog's behavior or
the nature rules of the dog life that I see each and every
day that I work with Lucky. Yet, he's the one she's NOT
By the way, I have to admit here that
time for training Lucky is starting to run short, as she
will be 2 in October of this year. So it's important that I
get her trained now...this summer...as she is more exceptive
right now. It's a must that the job gets done now and not
wait until she's say 3 or 4 years old. It's not impossible
to train a dog of those ages, it's just a bit more difficult
and more time consuming.
Well, I think it's time to go on to other
things in my life, such as the dog I'm training. It's time
to go give Lucky the positive attention she needs to keep
doing well with her training.
|September 13, 2014
I've had nothing to complain about in
months, and it felt good. But life hasn't been so perfect
either for me. Things at home have the worse it's ever been
for the hubby and myself. The one who suffers for it all is
me and I'm dog gone tired of it all. Harold was in the
hospital for a bit a few months back, and after he come home
all hell broke out with us. Through it all, I'm still here
with him and that in itself is something that I'm not so
sure I want anymore. I've decided to stay despite of the
problems, but only because I have no where else to go.
I've been accused of everything under the
sun, including trying to kill him (by Harold himself). If
what he was saying was true, I know I wouldn't mind. But
they're not true and never will be, as I don't have it in me
to harm anything or anyone. I can't even punish my dog
without crying most of the time, yet Harold thinks I'm
trying to kill him. Doesn't make a bit of sense.
I've also been accused of running around
on him with some guy here at the apartment complex. I'm
sorry, but we've been married for 28 years at the time, and
I have NO desirer to do such a thing ever. This went on
until just before our anniversary, when I told him it stops
now or I'm outta here and I take Lucky with me. He stop the
bull shit until after our anniversary and then started again
for about a week or two. Didn't hear another word about it
after I gave him the look.
Next thing I know, I'm accused of being
raped willingly. That's something NO woman wants go through
and to accused me of wanting it and taking it is something I
didn't expect out of Harold. I went through this for months
on end, and he even said it the night before our
anniversary. We had a huge fight that night to say the least
and I told him again, stop or me and Lucky are outta here
whether we have a home or not. That I frankly didn't care if
I lived or died homeless if that was the type of thing he
was going to say about his own wife.
Then in July on the 3rd, he accused me of
all the above and I started packing the dogs and my things
right in front of him. I meant business and he knew it, and
he stopped his bull shit again. I haven't heard a word out
of his mouth sense about any of it. Yet, I have this feeling
that it start up again sooner or later. We've now been
married some 29 years and I'm depressed most of the time. I
have NO will to keep the marriage going or stay with Harold
anymore. Yet, I have no where else to go and nobody who
frankly gives a rats ass about me in general. And frankly, I
don't give a shit anymore.
In fact, I don't frankly care if I live
or die. The only real reason I have at all to live is Lucky.
The dog is the only one who gives a rats ass if I'm around
or not. So now, I live to be here for Lucky. She needs me
more than Harold or anyone else for everything. After all,
Harold does nothing but show meanness toward her most of
time. He claims to love her, but will then put her in the
travel crate most of the time. Yet, Lucky shows him love and
wants to be with him. Go figure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!